Trigger Warning

My husband, Patrick, and I have always had a love of movies.

We have spent a lot of date nights at the movie theater or just cuddled up on the sofa watching the latest release. Obviously, over this last year we have been a little preoccupied with our rainbow and we have only manged to make it to two movies (Madeline in tow). So, we have been catching up on what we’ve missed by making good use of Redbox.

In doing so, we have noticed something.

There are a lot of movies that deal with losing a child.

There of course are the obvious ones, The Lovely Bones, Bridge to Terabithia, What Dreams May Come, Return to Zero, etc. Those are easy to avoid if you are feeling vulnerable. Ask me about the time I watched What Dreams May Come just a couple months after losing Joshua. Not a good idea.

The problem is those movies where it sneaks up on you.

Ever watch Up? I watch it and all I can do is sob thinking of poor Ellie and Carl. In fairness, Up is probably one of the saddest Disney movies I’ve ever seen anyway, but that scene in the hospital. My heart breaks for that poor animated couple.

Patrick does a good job of trying to “protect” me from watching movies where losing a child is part of the story line. He makes use of the parent’s guides to help make sure that there is nothing that will leave me crying and unable to watch the movie. However, we have noticed that this is getting trickier. It seems that the death of a child is not often mentioned in these parent guides. The last two movies we have watched were Interstellar and The Best of Me. Guess what? Both movies have parents dealing with the loss of a child.

So, this left me searching for a list a movies that deal with/mention loss to help from being completely sideswiped again. I found a list at: http://survivingmiscarriages.blogspot.com, but it hasn’t been updated in a while and I knew of several that I thought should be added. So I emailed her, and with her permission, I have included her original list and added many that I have found.

If you know of any others that should be added, please let me know.

Many of these are amazing movies, but they are a little less amazing when you aren’t expecting to hear about someone losing a baby and it hits you like a train.

I’m hoping that this list can help those who are grieving protect their hearts a little bit more.

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Movies & Television Shows that portray infertility, miscarriage, or infant/child loss:

1408 (child’s death)

101 Dalmations (a puppy is thought to be stillborn)

13 Reasons Why (teenage suicide)

21 Grams (husband and children killed in hit-and-run)

ABCs of Death, The (miscarriage and lots of other strange scenes)

Accidental Tourist, The (son is shot)

Agnes of God (stillbirth – cord accident)

AI: Artificial Intelligence (robot is sent as a replacement for couple’s child)

Alien 3 (child died)

Alien 4

Almost Romeo

American Horror Story

American Sniper

Amish Grace (children killed by gun man)

Arrival

Astro Boy

Astronaut’s Wife, The

Away We Go

Babel

Baby Mama

Bella

Beloved

Best of Me, The (child death mentioned, not shown)

Big Love

Birthday Girl (stillbirth)

Bitter Moon

Blood Diamond

Book of Henry, The

Book of Shadows: Blair Witch 2

Boy in the Striped Pajamas, The

Bridge to Terabithia (death of a child)

Broken

Butterfly Effect, The (some disturbing scenes – unrated director’s cut has VERY disturbing footage with a baby)

Cake

Call the Midwife

Candy

Caught

Charlie St. Cloud

Children of Men (miscarriage)

Cider House Rules (the entire movie is about a doctor who performs abortions)

City Hall

City of Angels

City of God

Coat of Many Colors, The

Collateral Beauty

Concussion

Constant Gardener, The

Country Strong (baby loss is a theme in movie)

Couple’s Retreat

Courageous

Crash

Criminal Law (self abortion)

Crossroads

Cry in the Dark, A

Curious Case of Benjamin Button, The (shows a baby die at the end)

Dangerous Liaisons

Dark, The

Day the Earth Stood Still, The (stillbirth)

Dear Zachery (documentary – very upsetting)

Debt, The (infertility)

Dedicated Survivor

Deep End of the Ocean

Desperate Housewives

Devil’s Advocate, The

Dirty Dancing (abortion)

Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby, The

Dolly Parton’s Coat of Many Colors

Door in the Floor, The

Double, The

Downton Abbey

Dr Quinn Medicine Woman – TV Show (towards the end of the series she has a unmentioned miscarriage)

Eastern Promises

Elizabeth

Elysium

Erin Brockovich

Faith Like Potatoes

Falling Down

Farewell to Arms, A

Finding Nemo

First Born, The (Lifetime movie)

First Heartbeat (a documentary on TLC-UK that followed a couple that had 5 miscarriages and was expecting again)

Flatliners

For Colored Girls (MANY difficult situations in this movie)

Forgotten, The (miscarriage)

Fosters, The (Season 2, Episode 6)

Frida

From Here to Eternity

From the Land of the Moon

Fullmetal Alchemist (anime series – infant loss as major theme from middle to end of series)

Fury

Gift, The

Girl on the Train, The

Giver, The

Glee (Season 5, episode 3 – after the real life death of one of the actors, his character is mourned and there is a gut-wrenching scene with his on-screen mom that for every cheesy moment on this show aside the writers nailed 110%)

Godsend

Gone Baby Gone

Gone with the Wind

Grace  (stillbirth DO NOT watch child comes back to “life” horror movie)

Grace Card, The (child’s death – accident)

Gravity

Grey’s Anatomy (obvious reasons – and there are several episodes that deal with pregnancy, infant, and child loss)

Guardians of the Galaxy (wife and daughter are killed (off screen) and it is mentioned)

Hand That Rocks the Cradle, The

Heaven is for Real

Help, The (miscarriage)

High Fidelity

Home Room (child dies after birth – not sure of reason)

Hours, The

Housemaid, The

House of Sand and Fog

How I Met Your Mother (infertility)

Hunger Games, The (obviously there is a lot of children’s deaths that are portrayed)

I Am Legend

  1. Robot

If These Walls Could Talk (pretty much a glorification of abortion)

Immediate Family

Immortal Beloved

In America

In the Bedroom

Interstellar

Ironweed

Jackie

Joy Luck Club, The

Jude

Julie & Julia (not mentioned but the emotion is there)

Junebug

Juno (abortion is discussed)

Karate Kid, The (2010 – wife and child die – car accident)

Killing, The

Kingdom of Heaven

Knocked Up

Labor Day

Letters to God (death of child – cancer)

Light Between Oceans, The

Lincoln

Lion

Little House on the Prairie (Ma in the first season and Mary in another season)

London Has Fallen

Looper

Love Child (Australia)

Love and Other Impossible Pursuits (loss of baby – SIDS)

Love Happens (someone in a support group mentions child loss)

Lovely Bones (lots of child loss)

Mad Max: Fury Road

Malice

Manchester By the Sea

March of the Penguins

Marie Antoinette

Marley & Me (miscarriage)

Masters of Sex

Matador, The

Matchstick Men

Maybe Baby

Maze Runner, The

Memory Keeper’s Daughter (mourning of a child that was told had died)

Message in a Bottle

Middle School: The Worst Years of My Life

Miracles from Heaven

Mist, The (death of a child)

Monster’s Ball

Moonlight Mile

Mother and Child

Music Within

Mr. Holmes

My Girl

My Sister’s Keeper (older child dies)

Mystic River

My Week with Marilyn

Nashville

Omen, The

One Last Christmas

Ordinary People

Orphan (stillbirth)

Other Boleyn Girl, The (miscarriage)

Other Woman, The (the whole movie is about the loss of a baby)

Outlander (Season 2, Episode 7)

Pan’s Labyrinth

Paradise

Path, The (stillbirth)

Patriots Day

Pay it Forward

Perfume: The Story of a Murderer

Plain Truth ( infant dies shortly after birth it’s unclear weather the infant was born still or murdered by the grandmother shortly after birth)

Private Practice (obvious reasons – there are several episodes that deal with pregnancy, infant, and child loss)

Quigley Down Under

Rabbit Hole (this entire movie is about the loss of a child)

Ray

Reign Over Me

Reservation Road

Return to Zero (stillbirth)

Revenge (miscarriage, fake miscarriage, infertility)

Revolutionary Road (self abortion – VERY distrubing)

Ring, The

Rite, The

Rosemary’s Baby

Rudderless

Sacrifice

Salt

Saving Private Ryan

Saw IV

Seabiscuit

Secret Window

Separation, A

Serena

Seven Pounds

Sex and Lucia

Sex and the City

Shack, The

She’s Having a Baby

Singles

Six Feet Under

Sixth Sense, The

Sleepy Hollow

Sliding Doors (miscarriage)

Slingblade

Smilla’s Sense of Snow

Someone Like You…

Son’s Room, The

Sophie’s Choice

Steel Magnolias

Still Walking

Sweet Hereafter, The

Sweet Home Alabama

Syriana

Tangled (daughter is missing throughout movie)

Tarzan (Kala and Kerchak lost a baby)

Tess

Then She Found Me (miscarriage and infertility)

This is 40 (some “in poor taste jokes”)

This is Our Time

This is Us (The first episode deals with stillbirth)

Three Colors: Blue

Time Traveler’s Wife, The (miscarriage)

Titanic (death of children and parents)

To the Bone

Trainspotting

Two Lovers

Ultraviolet (forced abortion)

Unborn, The

Untouchables, The

UP (variety of loss in this cartoon)

Waitress

Walk in the Clouds, A

Walk the Line (death of child)

Way, The

W.E.

Welcome to the Rileys

Whale Rider

What Dreams May Come (death of young children)

What She Knew (premature birth/death-mother harming child DISTURBING)

What to Expect When You’re Expecting

White Queen, The

Witch, The

Woman in Black, The

Words, The

World According to Garp, The

X-Men: Apocalypse

Young Adult